WTF? Why is This Happening to Me Again!?! Part 3
Okay…..this is the part where I get excited. This is where I get jazzed. I love working on issues. What I know from experiences of my own life is taking responsiblity for the circumstances of life transforms it. It’s the secret that makes life work!
Did you know that your greatest work is overcoming your fears? There is nothing that you have to do, no one you need to help and no one who needs you to save them? Everything is as it should be. There is nothing you have to do but transform your fears, live the life you desire and squeeze all the juice and joy from your journey as you can, full out and on your terms! Sounds like freedom doesn’t it??
Okay, so let’s look at how. Here are a few questions to start your process and journey of identifying your issues and overcoming your fears.
Pick an area of your life you want to change, an area where you hear yourself saying ad nauseum, “WTF? Why is this happening to me again?!?”
How do you want it to change?
Why do you want it to change?
What are the facts about this situation, person or event, not what you think and feel about it, simply the facts? Write this down on one side of your paper.
Now, when you think of having this area the way you want it to be, what thoughts come up for you? What are your fears or judgments, your beliefs that say it will never happen, impossible, no way, won’t happen, ever! Write these down on the other side of your paper.
Be sure to note how you feel as your answers flow. Are you angry, bitter, frustrated, or perhaps disappointed?
And, finally what do YOU believe keeps this circumstance or person from changing? If it were up to you, what would you do to change it?
Fabulous work! I invite you to share you issues, answers and comments.
TTFN….We’ll ponder your answers later…for now…..I’m going to work on a few of my issues!!
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July 21st, 2007 at 4:18 pm
Tuck,
Maybe this is the same, or maybe it’s a little different twist, but here’s the process I go through when I find myself asking, “WTF? Why is this happening to me again?!”:
1. Determine if I caused any aspect of what’s happening.
2. If I caused it - how did I cause it? (Note to self: don’t do that crap again!)
3. If I didn’t cause it, do I have any control over what’s happening? (i.e. can I effect any change in the situation by anything I could do or say?)
4. If I can effect a change, do it or say it. (Note to self: be brave, lead by example!)
5. If I can’t effect a change in the situation by doing or saying anything, then all I have left is to change my attitude about it. (Note to self: this is where I choose to let go and let God, or look for the gift in the situation, or the lesson I’m supposed to learn. Look at the glass as half full!)
I firmly believe the stuff that “keeps happening to me again” is doing so to wake my butt up to something I need to learn or discover about myself and how I interact with the rest of the world and the people in it.
If I don’t like what “keeps happening to me again” then I need to pay attention and learn the dang lesson once and for all! Otherwise, I’ll surely get yet another opportunity to do so down the road somewhere.