Folks, there are a plethora of tools available in the world for transforming your issues, fears and beliefs, along with a plethora of teachers and mentors to rock your world. I raise my hand as one of them!! And, my passion is sharing with you, the ones who’ve had an incredible impact and influence on my life.

Last week I am attended my 3rd Family Constellation Workshop facilitated by the fabulous John Payne, internationally acclaimed trance channel, metaphysical teacher and ancestral healing workshop facilitator of over 250 workshops on 5 continents. John’s knowledge and experience comes from his work with traditional African healers and energy/spiritual healers from diverse traditions. He blends the psychotherapeutic process and ancestral healing with a spiritual approach that is unwavering in its truth. His empathic skills, intuitive insight and compassion provide a safe and nurturing space for moving through healing challenges with ease.

I was thrilled to experience another quantum leap in my personal and spiritual evolution through the healing modality of Family Constellation work, and honored to be guided by John Payne.

Folks, if you aren’t familiar with ancestral healing work, I invite you learn more about the process and John, by visiting his website at www.familyconstellations.net. While you’re there, check out his two books, The Healing of Individuals, Families and Nations and The Language of the Soul, endorsed by Debbie Ford, Donna Eden and Iyanla Vanzant.

Here is my answer, at least for today:

Conditioning, limiting beliefs, belief systems, living unconsciously, not deliberately choosing my thoughts, any and all of the above and more…..

Bottom line - my issues are mine to own. My fears are mine to overcome. My energy and my emotional reaction is my responsibility. And what a gift! How fabulous it is that I have the glorious opportunity to empower my own healing.

Overcoming fears, releasing guilt, shame and blame, consciously choosing to change thoughts and beliefs clears what’s in the way of having the fabulous life you deserve.

You are a magnificent creator, with endless possibility for living the life you desire, squeezing the juice and enjoying the ride, full out and on your terms!

So how do you use the exercise you completed to release your issues?

It’s simple in theory….a little more challenging in practice, with the operative word being practice. What you most need to work on in yourself, you will project onto others. What you don’t embrace in yourself, you won’t embrace in others. What you blame and punish in yourself, you blame and punish in others. What you need others to do in order to feel better is what YOU need to do for YOU.

It’s not your fault that you have these behaviors, however once aware of their existence your behavior is YOUR responsibility. I’m here for ya! I’ve been doing this work for a long, long time and I’m still doing it. Our work is never done.

How you approach the work makes all the difference in the world. Fear is your friend. Issues are your gift. Trigger events are opportunities to be present to every moment. As you do your work, your life will change. No longer will you hear yourself saying, WTF? Why is this happening to me again?

“Here we/I go again!
”Is this situation EVER going to change?”
“If THEY/THIS would change my life would be so much better!”

You now know…..YOU are the change!!!!

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Here we go! Take a look at the area of life you want to change. What did you write were the facts about this area? Remember, you’re writing only the facts. For example, if I’m not happy with my body image, the facts would be: I’m 5’ 1”. I weigh 112 lbs. I’m 54. I have a current exercise schedule and routine. I pay attention to the food I eat….sometimes etc.

Now, for my fears, judgments and beliefs: I look old. I’m not pretty. I’ll never look the way I did when I was younger. Everyone looks better than I do. My muscle is gone forever. It’s impossible at my age to have the body I’d like to have. I can’t put on a bathing suit. What will people think, blah, blah, blah, fear and judgment, fear and judgment.

How did you do? Did you have a list of fears, judgments and beliefs that go on and on ad nauseum? We all do. It’s important to note this is the chatter that lives in your head…..24/7! This is where you spend the majority of your waking hours. You use your creative imagination to see, perceive, think and respond to a made up version of who you think you are.

Sounds a little crazy I know. Rather than acknowledging the facts and imagining a life the way you want it to be, you live in the imagined fears, judgments and beliefs of life, the way you don’t want them to be. Why would you do this????

I’m waiting on YOUR answer…..

Okie Dokie, are you ready to work on your issues? I am if you are. I love peeling the layers, digging into my trigger events and the issues that push my buttons. I’m clear that what I resist, persists, what I fail to look at will not go away, that God will continue putting things in front of me ‘til I get it right. How many ways can this be said? It all boils down to the same thing.

I create my reality by how I choose to see, perceive, think and respond. Me…I do it! And, I do all of it. So, when I hear myself saying, WTF? Why is this happening to me again? It’s a “note to Tuck”, to put my full attention on what’s in front of me and ask, What’s MY issue?. I’m the one who is triggered here. I’m the one in fear, judgment, anger and frustration. And, I’m the one with the opportunity to heal and change my reality, or not.

Okay, so what was the area of your life YOU chose to change? Was it finances, career, relationships, your body, health, personal or spiritual empowerment? It doesn’t matter what you chose, only that you realize one very important point:

If you don’t have the money you desire, it’s not about the money.
If you don’t have the body image you desire, it’s not about the diet.
If you don’t have the relationship or job you like, it’s not about your lover or your boss.

What it is about - is YOU. It’s about the reality you choose to imagine, dream up, focus on and think about. And then, you make a choice to live in fear of this imagined reality, as if it is true for you.

Sound weird? Grab your sheet where you chose the area of your life you wanted to change…and get ready to rock your world! 

Okay…so what’s an issue?

Webster defines an issue as: something that comes from a disordered imagination (disordered imaging…hmmm….does this mean we’re making it up?). My definition of an issue is: a fear, a trigger event that immediately causes a response to defend or blame another, a belief or perception keeping you stuck, paralyzed, in a rut going through the same circumstance over and over, looking for a solution “out there”.

So how do you identify YOUR issues?

Do you have fears? Are you frustrated, annoyed, outraged or triggered by a person or circumstance in your life? Are you driven to fix “them” or “it”, or waiting for “them” or “it” to change, so you can feel better about your life circumstance and who you are?

If this is you, then you have issues. And, if you have issues, then you have fears. And, if you have fears, it means you’re alive and…….there is an end to your struggle! This is good news!! One of your recurring thoughts was, “Is this situation ever going to change?”. The answer……..Absolutely…..…yes, yes, yes and yes!

Your situation, the circumstances and people in your life WILL change. The people and events in your life that push your buttons causing you fear will change………when you change. It’s an inside job, an issue that’s fixed “in here”. Taking responsibility for the frustration, anger and fears you feel, and the trigger events that push your buttons is the key to living a fabulous life, It’s work……but it’s pure freedom!! No longer will you hear yourself say…..WTF? Why is this happening again?!?

So how do you take responsibility for your issues to experience pure freedom and live a fabulous life? Stay tuned for Part 3 – WTF? Why is this happening to me again?

Ever have these thoughts?

Here we/I go again!
Is this situation EVER going to change?
If THEY/THIS would change my life would be so much better!

These are every day thoughts for most individuals, usually accompanied by emotional outbursts, anger, bewilderment, confusion and a desperate cry to the Universe of WTF? Why is this happening to me again?

Seldom does it occur to us, when we reach this state, that we are the ongoing consistency of each situation and experience birthing these thoughts. An, “I’m right, you’re wrong” response is the typical trap we fall into. We identify “them” as the “guilty party” or ourselves as a “victim of circumstance”. Frustration, shame, blame, guilt, and at times, conflict ensue. In most cases, it NEVER occurs to us that we might be the ones setting up this whole scenario. And, that we might be the ones to fix it.

As weird as it might sound, your circumstances are yours to fix. You are responsible for the people, events and circumstances that show up in your life. You are the one creating your anger, frustration, conflict and pain?  You and your issues!

Got your attention? Tune in for Part 2 of WTF? Why is this happening to me again?!?