Comments on: Bold Self-Expression - A Defining Moment http://therebelbelle.com/blog/belle-with-balls/bold-self-expression-a-defining-moment Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:26:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.3 By: RebelBelle http://therebelbelle.com/blog/belle-with-balls/bold-self-expression-a-defining-moment#comment-97 RebelBelle Sat, 22 Sep 2007 20:27:38 +0000 http://therebelbelle.com/blog/belle-with-balls/bold-self-expression-a-defining-moment#comment-97 Hi Andrea...your post had me smiling the whole way through. My son and daughter are now 26 and 23...but I remember the counting days. I feel ya! How many children do you have and how old? If you'll send me their birth info, date, time and location, I'll share a really cool secret with you about interacting with your child. By the way...I think you're right on with how you're making choices. I think the quote was more for as they age. I parent my kids a lot different in relation to their making choices than I was parented. And, we communicate about it a whole lot more. My daughter and I have done lots and lots of workshops together around empowered listening and communication. She rocks my world now...OMG! how I love my kids!!! Hi Andrea…your post had me smiling the whole way through. My son and daughter are now 26 and 23…but I remember the counting days. I feel ya! How many children do you have and how old? If you’ll send me their birth info, date, time and location, I’ll share a really cool secret with you about interacting with your child.

By the way…I think you’re right on with how you’re making choices. I think the quote was more for as they age. I parent my kids a lot different in relation to their making choices than I was parented. And, we communicate about it a whole lot more. My daughter and I have done lots and lots of workshops together around empowered listening and communication. She rocks my world now…OMG! how I love my kids!!!

]]> By: Andrea Hess | Empowered Soul Blog http://therebelbelle.com/blog/belle-with-balls/bold-self-expression-a-defining-moment#comment-95 Andrea Hess | Empowered Soul Blog Fri, 21 Sep 2007 19:45:45 +0000 http://therebelbelle.com/blog/belle-with-balls/bold-self-expression-a-defining-moment#comment-95 Great post! I, for one, do think we should put our happiness before our children's. That may sound selfish, but who is going to teach my child to put herself first, if I don't model this concept for her? It goes hand in hand with taking responsibility for creating our own happiness ... I'm not sure about disempowering our children by making choices for them ... my child is two years old. Her choices would include sitting around in a poopy diaper, eating nothing but M&M's, and running with scissors! As the child of a very controlling mother, I would love to allow her to make her own choices. At the same time, I also sometimes need to leave the house in a timely manner. I've really struggled with this! So far, I've opted for a system of clear choices and consistent consequences. As in: "Put on your pants, or we're not going for a walk. Okay, no pants mean no walk. This is your final warning. If your pants are not on in five, four, three, two, one ... okay, we're not going for a walk." A toddler tantrum ensues. Hey, she could have easily put on her pants, right? I don't know ... too controlling? Disempowering? I'm open to suggestions! :-) Blessings, Andrea Great post! I, for one, do think we should put our happiness before our children’s. That may sound selfish, but who is going to teach my child to put herself first, if I don’t model this concept for her? It goes hand in hand with taking responsibility for creating our own happiness …

I’m not sure about disempowering our children by making choices for them … my child is two years old. Her choices would include sitting around in a poopy diaper, eating nothing but M&M’s, and running with scissors! As the child of a very controlling mother, I would love to allow her to make her own choices. At the same time, I also sometimes need to leave the house in a timely manner. I’ve really struggled with this! So far, I’ve opted for a system of clear choices and consistent consequences. As in: “Put on your pants, or we’re not going for a walk. Okay, no pants mean no walk. This is your final warning. If your pants are not on in five, four, three, two, one … okay, we’re not going for a walk.” A toddler tantrum ensues. Hey, she could have easily put on her pants, right? I don’t know … too controlling? Disempowering? I’m open to suggestions! :-)

Blessings,
Andrea

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